Are you a good leader? These are the traits you need
Being a manager doesn't necessarily mean you're a great leader. You may be accomplished in your career, but not brilliant at managing people.
Poor leadership is common, with 69% of people admitting they’ve had a bad leader at some point and 47% have left a role because of a bad boss, according to research for SEEK.
Leah Lambart, Career Coach at Relaunch Me, says many experts become managers because they have very good technical skills, but their people skills may be lacking.
"When they move into a leadership role, it's really important that they develop those people-centric skills such as self-awareness, empathy and compassion. This allows them to build relationships with their employees, colleagues and customers, but also to influence and lead people through change," she says.
Here she shares five ideal leadership traits and ways to develop them.
What makes a good leader?
Leadership can take many forms, but Leah Lambart says there are a few key traits that consistently make someone a good leader. Overall, employees value leaders who are self-aware, communicate well, lead with authenticity, and inspire others.
Good leadership traits foster a positive work culture, which is motivating for employees and leads to higher employee retention, Lambart explains.
Self-Awareness
Lambart says that “effective leaders demonstrate self-awareness by recognising their strengths, limitations and the impact of their behaviour on others”. Self-aware leaders actively seek feedback, reflect on their actions, and remain composed under pressure, even when emotionally triggered.
“By aligning their actions with their values and adjusting based on self-reflection, they are able to foster a culture that is built on authenticity and trust,” says Lambart.
“When leaders acknowledge their limitations, seek feedback, and consistently demonstrate their values, it signals integrity and humility which are qualities that make their team feel safe, respected, and valued. As a result, team members are more likely to engage openly, collaborate effectively and show loyalty.”
Good Communication
Lambart says that “leaders need to communicate not only the company's vision or strategy, but also being able to clearly communicate instructions and expectations to their team”.
If there's no clarification on what is expected from them, it's very hard for them to perform well in their roles.
Communicating is also the ability to really listen to others - to focus on what they are saying and to truly understand their perspective.
“The ability to listen will enable them to build trust with their employees as well as with their customers and other stakeholders,” Lambart explains.
Aspirational
Lambart explains that “an aspirational leader is someone who motivates and brings out the best in others by leading with purpose, integrity and a drive to keep learning and growing. They are clear about where they’re heading and help their team understand and get excited about the bigger picture”.
“These leaders stay true to their values, follow through on what they say, and build trust by being open and real,” says Lambart.
They’re also emotionally intelligent - able to handle pressure, listen to others, and respond with empathy. Instead of being afraid of change or mistakes, they see them as an opportunity to improve and encourage their team to try new things and keep pushing forward.
Authenticity
“A leader who demonstrates authenticity builds strong, genuine connections with their team by being honest, consistent, and true to themselves. They don’t pretend to have all the answers or put on a facade. Instead, they show vulnerability when needed and lead with humility,” says Lambart.
Lambart goes on to explain that “this kind of leadership creates a safe space where people feel comfortable speaking up, sharing ideas, and being themselves. When leaders are authentic, their teams are more likely to trust them, stay engaged, and feel a stronger sense of purpose in their work”.
The dangers of poor leadership
Good leaders are able to build a culture of respect and trust and empower employees to achieve their goals. Poor leaders, on the flip side, can contribute to a toxic work culture and high staff turnover.
"If there's a lack of trust or respect for the leadership team, things can turn ugly," Lambart says. "The culture becomes toxic, people find it hard to stay engaged and eventually they leave, which can be very costly for the organisation."
Lambart says the most common traits of bad leaders are:
Poor communication
Dishonesty
Disrespect
Not being authentic
Being unwilling to listen
Not communicating and guiding the team through change
Not recognising strengths and weaknesses in a team
Not providing regular and timely feedback
Not showing appreciation for hard work
She adds that losing good employees is a concern for all industries but particularly those that are currently experiencing high demand for staff such as hospitality, health and education.
How can leaders develop good traits?
Poor leadership can have a lasting impact on team morale, performance, and culture but it’s often rooted in a lack of self-awareness rather than intention.
Many managers are simply unaware of how their behaviours are perceived by others, which can lead to misunderstandings, disengagement, and missed opportunities for growth.
Lambart explains that “self-awareness can be gained by using a ‘360 assessment tool’ combined with tailored leadership coaching to identify any blind spots”.
By gathering feedback from peers, direct reports and supervisors, managers gain a well-rounded view of their strengths and weaknesses. Leadership coaching then helps them make sense of the feedback, build greater self-awareness and develop practical strategies to lead more effectively.
“Not only does this improve team dynamics and workplace culture, it also supports long-term career development by helping leaders grow into more authentic, impactful, and trusted professionals, which can only lead to a positive outcome,” says Lambart.
Source: Independent research conducted by Nature of behalf of SEEK, interviewing 4,800 Kiwis annually. Published July 2025.